OUR SUCCESS STORIES AT BRRC

PEER GROUP

My son was bullied at his former school. He has really benefited from getting to know other children who have gone through similar experiences as him. The programs the kids participate in help bring them all together and learn from each other. My son loves coming to his peer group and is always asking when the next meeting is going to be. He has learned about what being an upstander is and he never had been exposed to that at his former school. His former school really did nothing to teach students to stop the bullying. This is a fantastic organization.

PARENT GROUP

I have really found the parent group to be very beneficial from the standpoint of being more educated on how the school system works, what our rights are, and how to protect my child from future bullying. It has also helped me coach my son to understand these things, so he can better handle situations at his new school. The Ahlborgs are so knowledgeable and have such a giving spirit to help in a variety of ways – through education, resources and encouragement.

— Beth Boen, parent

PEER GROUP

My daughter was severely bullied and suffered from PTSD, depression, and suicide ideation. The Peer Recovery Group has been a vital part of her recovery from bullying. After several meetings, she has been able to share about what happened to her. She has learned calming techniques and developed a support system. I appreciate that the group tells her that she has nothing to be ashamed of and didn’t deserve what happened to her. The Peer Recovery Group is great for giving support to children who have been bullied.

PARENT GROUP

I am proud to be the first client of BRRC even before BRRC was created. My daughter was being relentlessly bullied at school, and the administration wasn’t stopping it. We were frustrated and felt all alone. The Ahlborg’s helped by listening, sharing their knowledge and experience, directly advocating at my daughters school, and even providing legal assistance for our meeting with the Superintendent. I am truly grateful for the Ahlborg’s and BRRC’s help and support during a difficult time for our family and proud to be an active member of the parent advocacy group to help other families.

—Stacie Russell, parent

PEER GROUP

Our son experienced bullying by a few students at his former school and was suffering some trauma from us having to quickly remove him from that environment for his safety and self-esteem.  He was the youngest member to join the BRRC peer group at 8 years old, but the sessions worked out wonderfully.  Not only did he regain confidence, he built relationships with some of the older kids, becoming part of their healing process.  The BRRC’s mission of showing kids the “good in the world” has truly been a beacon for us.  Our son regained so much confidence, that later in the year, he stood up for another student who was being picked on because of a disability.  We really feel that BRRC has made a big difference for our son.

PARENT GROUP

As parents, also traumatized by what we found out our son had been going through, we were relieved to learn that we weren’t alone.  The parent group has been a safe place to confide with others on our experiences.  It has allowed brainstorming and problem solving, and perhaps most importantly, healing to occur.  BRRC has made a difference and we feel strongly that a program like this can have a unique and lasting impact on bullying in schools.

                                                                                                                                                                                                   -Curtis and Meg Kowalski, parents

ADVOCACY

Our son: he is generous; he is smart; he is athletic; he shares his lunch with the child who forgot his own and wants to be a veterinarian to help the animals he loves.  Fortunately, my son still is…

Our son was bullied at his private, Catholic school; he was physically attacked, stolen from, lied about, and socially shunned.  His best friend abandoned him for the bully.  He hated himself and was terrified to go to school.  He was convinced he didn’t matter; we were afraid of what he might do next…The school administration was fully aware of the assaults on him.  But, the school administration not only failed to take ANY action to stop the bullying but denied the existence of bullying at the school and went so far as to accuse and blame my son and us as his parents.  It was clear we were not only dealing with a child bully but an administration empowered by its own pattern of egregious, bullying behavior.

There is no way to adequately describe the depth of our despair, anger, helplessness, and overwhelming feeling of being alone at the very time we needed to be the strongest for our son.  We knew help was needed, but there didn’t seem to be anywhere to turn.  However, through a 9News report, we became aware of The Ahlborg’s own plight and their then recent formation of Bullying Recovery Resource Center.  Tom Ahlborg became an invaluable resource and friend.  He provided perspective and expertise on ways to combat the school administration’s failures, he acted as witness and advocate at meetings with the administration, and he never hesitated to just listen.  Most importantly, the Ahlborg’s limitless passion and benevolence in founding Bullying Recovery Resource Center provided a safe forum whereby we could continue to find the courage and confidence to advocate for our child.  The power behind bullying depends on fear and isolation; because of BRRC we knew that we were no longer alone.  We truly believe, in large part, that without Tom and BRRC we would not have been able to move forward to a place of healing and normalcy.

An old Confucian proverb states: “The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.”  Bullying today is a mountain which looms over our society in increasingly ominous and deadly ways.  The Ahlborgs, in founding Bullying Recovery Resource Center, have begun carrying away those stones that so firmly perpetuate bullying.

                                                                                                                                                                                                           – Parent